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A parent’s greatest fear: A tribute to two Maddies…

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The loss of your child.  I cannot fathom such a thing, yet it consumes me entirely sometimes.  Often, these times are just moments; sometimes, they are nightmares.  To even think such a thing can quicken your pulse and give pause to your breath.

To think on it for more than a moment can make you lightheaded . . . woozy . . . fearful.  Your senses become hyper sensitive as you verify the life of your child…”Where is she?” “Breathing ok?” “Napping ok?” “Still playing in the backyard without incident?”

I recently had a scare of this in the family, as a cousin’s child was admitted to the hospital in what seemed to be a metabolic shock due to a rare genetic disorder.  While this may have been related, it appears to have been a case of infant botulism that set off the symptoms, and sent young Maddie T. to the hospital.  Maddie T. is recovering well, and as of today, is back home with her parents and will undergo several therapies for a while to get back to full capability in this world.  Maddie T. is five months old.  All is going well and she appears to have a long life ahead of her.  Praise the Lord above!

Unfortunately, this week, one family’s worst nightmare has become reality.  Yesterday, Tuesday, April 7, 2009, Maddie Spohr, a mere 17 months old, passed away.  I just learned of her today via my friends on Twitter.  She was born prematurely, and had some breathing troubles, but had apparently been doing well, all things considered.  She developed a cough this past weekend, and ended up in the hospital.  She won’t be walking out of the hospital . . .

I can’t provide much more info on her or her family at the moment, as the family’s primary website is currently unavailable (due to poor policies and customer service by Bluehost…don’t use them if you want a reliable site that can be there in a time of need…) – but I will link to it once it appears to be working again.

The parents wish for all good wishes to be expressed as donations to the March of Dimes, which helped them during Maddie’s premature delivery.  In Pittsburgh, spearheaded by @burghbaby via her blog post titled “For Maddie,” people are donating more than their money; they are creating a team to walk in the March for Babies in tribute of Maddie Spohr.

If you are a parent, please consider donating.  If you live in Pittsburgh, and are free May 9th, how about joining the team for the walk? (Unfortunately, I plan to be out of town that weekend, and will not be able to walk with the team.  I will be there in spirit.)

Thank God for Maddie T.’s wonderful recovery.  Pray for the Spohrs as they go through this awful loss of their Maddie.  I hope I never have to find out first hand how it would change me.  I dare not think on it too long, for it would tear me apart, and may just be tempting fate.  Who knows?

For the families of both Maddies: we, collectively, are here.  Take care.

First picnic of 2009

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It’s early March, and the Spring weather has hit!  To celebrate and enjoy some of this beautiful weather, after a long Saturday full of busywork, we decided to have a picnic at South Park.  We parked in the lot on Hundred Acre Drive, just after you turn onto it from Corrigan Dr.

Parking lot on Hundred Acre Dr.

Parking lot on Hundred Acre Dr. (from top of hill)

We climbed up the gargantuan hill to the pavilion at near the top, and had our picnic dinner.

There is a newer pavilion there, or at least one that has been rebuilt.  Abby enjoyed eating outside at the picnic table, but food didn’t hold her interest for long, since she had a great new purple playground ball to make us chase down that big hill!

Mmmm, Cheese Stick!

Mmmm, Cheese Stick!

Abby and her purple ball

Abby and her purple ball

There is a nice new playground right next to the pavilion, as well, and after some chasing of the new ball, we all decided to do some swinging and sliding.

Mommy helping Abby swing

Mommy helping Abby swing

Sitting with Daddy at the bottom of the stairs to the slide

Sitting with Daddy at the bottom of the stairs to the slide

And, after all that, we did some good old chasing, with Abby saying, “Daddy, I get you!” or occasionally, “You get me?”

I got you!

"I got you!"

And, we hold onto our ball:

And, we hold onto our ball

And, we hold onto our ball

Well, sometimes, anyway!

Well, sometimes, anyway!

You can see the rest of the day’s pictures posted in the South Park Picnic album of the Pryke Photos website.

After our picnic, we decided to go get some ice cream, so we headed to Bruster”s ice cream shop in HillCrest Shopping Center…but, much to our surprise, they were closed!  For good! So, we headed to Eat ‘N’ Park for some dessert (mmm, Grilled Stickies!), but the wait was waaaaay too long for our tastes (and Abby’s.)  Since it was so close and easy and fast, we decided to just go to McDonald’s for a few quick soft-serve sundaes and a cone for Abby.  Yum!  (In hindsight, the cone was unnecessary; we had too much ice cream, and Abby wanted to eat with a spoon like us, anyway.)

Despite the dessert troubles, it was a wonderful way to end a great day!

Enjoying the glow: Pittsburgh Light Up Night 2008

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We (Rachel, Abby, and I) went to Pittsburgh’s Light up Night festivities on Friday night. Due to our schedules, we knew we wouldn’t be able to make it in time for the actual tree lighting that was happening around 6:00 PM, but we decided we’d like to go see the tree and ice rink at PPG Place, and look in the store windows like little kids, and watch the fireworks at 9:00 PM.

We had a quick dinner of mac ‘n’ cheese and chicken nuggets at home, then headed to the T stop to ride downtown. This was Abby’s first ride on the T, and before we left, to make it easy for her to understand, we asked her if she’d like to go ride the train. Of course, she responded with an emphatic “Yes! Yeah!”

Knowing how cold it was outside (about 15 to 20 degrees, depending on your thermometer and exact location,) and with wind to boot, we all bundled up with multiple layers, including “long johns” or thermal underwear, another warm layer over that, two pairs of socks, winter coats, gloves (mittens for Abby) and hats or earmuffs (those newer, less-conspicuous ones, not the Princess Leia poofy ones) and insulated winter boots. “I can’t put my arms down!” (if you don’t know that movie quote, look it up on your favorite search engine.) But, we knew we would stay warm. Then, we headed out.

A train pulled away just as we arrived at the stop, but I figured there would be another one soon, since it was light up night. Yep, about ten minutes, there it was! One the way to the stop, a guy stopped us and gave us his transfers to use, saying that he just bought them but that his party couldn’t go now, because his girlfriend just got sick. We graciously thanked him for them, wishing them well. Yep, they covered our fare into town! That’s one of the things I love about Pittsburgh. It really is true: the people are nice. They just give things away. Granted, he couldn’t use them, so it wasn’t a great sacrifice on his part, but none-the-less, it was a great gesture of kindness in my opinion.

Abby loved the ride, looking out the window, often saying “uh oh” when the T stopped. 🙂 We assured her, every time, that it would go again in a minute, that we just had to stop and let some people get off and on the train. Fortunately, Port Authority (1, 2) was running double cars all night, so it wasn’t too crowded of a ride into town until we hit Station Square, then a bunch of people hopped on to get downtown.

Once downtown (getting off at Wood St.), we walked through Market Square, enjoying the music and vendors there, and headed to check out the tree. On the way to PPG Place, we saw “gingerbread” houses in the storefront windows (made out of graham crackers…) And then we got to the ice rink and tree. It was wonderful! Lots of people skating, even more looking on from the side like us, and the beautiful, huge, tree in the center of the rink. I snapped a few pictures and we talked with one nice gentleman for a few minutes.

Both the storefront windows and this ice rink & tree transported me back in time. I was at peace, watching families and friends skating and having fun, with my family, and the Christmas spirit descending upon me. I felt like a kid again, like when my family used to ride around on Christmas Eve to see all everyone’s decorations, including trees, lit up houses, churches, and luminaria. Except, this time, it was an even deeper set of emotions. I had my wife and daughter with me, and we were enjoying it together. My family.

After a few minutes, we moved on to get out of others’ way, and look into some other storefronts. We ended up not going too far before heading inside (it was *cold*) to 2 PPG Place. We looked at some of the decorations there and then headed to Crazy Mocha for a couple of hot drinks. Mmmm. We also got a Biscotti. The wait for the coffee took a while, though; there were tons of people with the same idea. That’s ok, though, because it allowed us to warm up, and Abby to run around a bit. (We brought her big stroller, and had a blanker over her in it while we were outside.)

We got out of Crazy Mocha about 8:53 PM, just in time to quickly move with the throngs of other people towards Point State Park to watch the fireworks (supposedly starting at 9:00 PM!) The fireworks started just as we got to a great spot to watch them on a sidewalk. They were great! Zambelli and Pittsburgh really know how to do fireworks! Abby loved them, though the wind was blowing directly into our faces, and she did start getting cold towards the end of them. I was crouching down with her (she was back in her stroller) and at one point she just turned into me and snuggled into my shoulder to block the wind and get a little warmer. She still said she was enjoying the show, though!

After the fireworks, we headed to Steel Plaza, knowing that tons of people would be trying to get on the T at Gateway Center station, and even lots at Wood St. We got on it heading “inbound” – this way we got a seat. A few trains came by heading outbound…you couldn’t fit another person on them! We knew we made the right decision. Once we got to Station Square, people flooded off of the T, though; Rachel guessed they were probably going clubbing now that the fireworks were over. I agree.

It was a pleasant ride back, since it wasn’t too terribly crowded. Abby once again had fun, this time talking with us more. I have to say, she was an angel the entire night. She was in a great mood, and behaved very well every step of the way.

Abby went right to bed when we got home, and I got on the computer to check out if any of my friends had been there, and to blog about the experience, but my blog was misbehaving so it had to wait until today.

All in all, it was a great night as a family, and a great experience! We plan to do it again; every year that we can.